Let’s be honest, being a parent is not always easy. Undoubtedly, there are few things as rewarding as a healthy, loving parent-child relationship. However some days, it feels as if parenting is the most difficult job in the world (and it probably is!).
During my work as a play therapist, a large part of my job included offering support and education to parents. As part of the support I always highly recommended two books. Both of these books are written by individuals with a background in understanding kids and the parent-child relationship. But more importantly, they are parents themselves.
The first book I want to review and recommend is called:
by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson. The subtitle of the book is: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture your Child’s Developing Mind.
This is an extremely useful book in that it explains, in a very down to earth way, how your child’s brain works. It also has guaranteed-to-work strategies for improving behaviors, and ultimately building a healthy relationship with your child.
The authors teach how you, as a parent, can use these whole brain strategies. They explain what brain integration is, and why this is important to behavior. Most importantly, you learn what YOU as the parent can do to help your child not just survive but thrive while managing difficult behaviors.
Daniel and Tina talk about the difference between the left and right side of the brains. It includes their secret of how to tap into your child’s right brain to stop meltdowns in their tracks.
They explain the function of the “upstairs brain” and how you as a parent can learn to help your child engage rather than enrage.
The authors also talk about the importance of working on accurate memory integration. Through memory integration, parents can help their child minimize storing memories that are fear based, rather than fact based. This is very important when looking at our core beliefs.
At the end of the book, there is a section on “ages and stages” which explain what behaviors and what strategies are recommended for each age group. There is also a “cheat sheet” you can copy and put on your fridge for easy access.
This is the first book that I recommend to parents as it has an easy to read format, with proven strategies that are easy to implement and includes something for all age groups.
You can check this book out here.
by Amy McCready, who raised two boys using the principles in her book, is the second book that I recommend to parents. The subtitle (interestingly, the word revolutionary is used again) is: The Revolutionary Program that gets your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling.
Not yelling or nagging but kids still listening…that does sound pretty revolutionary!
In this book, Amy talks about the difference between discipline and punishment, why this distinction is important, and which is more effective.
The author explains in a very readable way that why what you’re doing instinctively as a parent, based on how you were parented, isn’t working. The books talks about how parenting today’s kids is not the same as when your parents raised you, and suggests how to parent today’s kid effectively. She offers some very practicable and doable alternatives instead.
Amy talks about the different discipline strategies, what works and what doesn’t.
Included is a short parenting style quiz that helps to identify your particular style. It includes the pros and cons of your parenting style and how to make it work for your relationship with your child.
This book is packed full of helpful explanations for parents regarding behavior issues, as well as practicable and yep, also easy to implement tips and parenting ideas.
I could go on, but instead I recommend that you check it out for yourself here!
What are areas that you struggle with as a parent? Feel free to let me know in the comments.